by Team Sim | Jan 13, 2021 | Imperfection
No personality is perfect, but we have perfectly imperfect personalities. We need to be mindful that our human spirit is perfect and whole and we have been given a human body in which to live and express ourselves. Some of our greatest strengths are also our greatest weaknesses.
For example, a person may be friendly and welcoming. This is a beautiful trait and quality to have. In a world of personality conflicts, this can also be a weakness, because that same person may be afraid to speak up, or it can result in being nice even when we don’t want to be, which can compromise our authenticity.
A person may be very well organised that is conducive and a necessity to keeping organisations, households and work places functional. However if not balanced with flexibility it can be too rigid and not adaptable to unexpected situations or events.
We may have trust issues and find it difficult to get close to people, yet at the same time, this serves to cultivate discernment and awareness of possible conflicts on the horizon.
We may struggle to manage our anger, yet when channelled wisely and in a healthy manner, it can be used to foster determination and grow strength.
Understanding each trait and quality can serve to help us grow and heal. that Each is created perfectly, and accepting with compassion and to teach us to love ourselves first as whole, is part of our spiritual journey.
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Content support Maria Peach
by Team Sim | Jan 12, 2021 | Imperfection
There are many reasons imperfections scare us:
* we fear our imperfections will push people away
* we don’t know how to change them, or improve them
* we worry people will take advantage of our weaknesses
* our beliefs about ourselves are too ingrained to shift our way of thinking
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Content support Maria Peach
by Team Sim | Jan 11, 2021 | Imperfection
Have there been times in your life when you are afraid to do something because you worry about doing it perfectly?
- Do you keep people away for fear of them knowing your imperfections?
- Do you wish they would go away?
- Do you sometimes struggle to know how to deal with imperfections?
We all have imperfections as humans and struggle to manage these. It can create resistance to leading fulfilling lives. Our constant fretting about what we perceive to be wrong with us, can be debilitating and stunt our growth, with too much focus on our imperfections only.
What we can lose sight of, is that some of our deepest insecurities and strengths are found in our imperfections simultaneously. Once we understand this, we begin to accept ourselves completely and reach the realisation, it is our acceptance of ourselves that allows us to move forward and grow spiritually.
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Content support Maria Peach
by Team Sim | Jan 6, 2021 | Greed
Thankfully there are ways to avoid greed taking over.
→ have a values driven life first and foremost
→ surround yourself with people generous people – They are more likely to share the same values, and inspire you to be the same
→ be generous. create wealth with others in mind also.
→ support a local group or cause that you know could do with some financial assistance and resource. Put extra money to good use, without having a saviour mentality.
→ find ways to have a sustainable income that does not lead to the exploitation of workers
→ be thankful for what one already has, as there are plenty of people in the world who are struggling.
→ choose to work within cooperative groups that generate wealth, with the thought that wealth would be shared with others and the communities surrounding.
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Content support Maria Peach
by Team Sim | Jan 5, 2021 | Greed
What can happen when greed takes over?
We only have to take a look around the world, nearby and afar, to see what happens when a person or group of people become greedy.
people want more as they obtain more
the desire for more can take over personal values
greed damages relationship priorities, people competing against each other for ‘more’ than another
people lose sight of who they are
people are exploited, for profits
people are reluctant to help others financially because of fear of ‘losing’ money
money becomes an indicator of power
greed has led to the destruction of the planet, land and oceans, for resources.
people engage in certain behaviours to meet short term goals, because of the rewards, whether it’s ethical or not.
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Content support Maria Peach
by Team Sim | Jan 4, 2021 | Greed
Greed has evolved from the competitive economic capitalist, market systems within countries and between countries.
It is incompatible with the innate feeling we all have to nurture and care for one another as a community and therefore explains the conflict many people have in dealing with money.
This economic competitiveness has cultivated societies focused on materialism, which often utilises unethical business and corporate decisions for profit.
Rather than create for the whole and others, many people create only for themselves and their own family.
by Team Sim | Dec 31, 2020 | Spiritual Bypassing
Like most things in life a healthy balance is required on a spiritual journey. It is important to recognise spiritual bypassing in our own journeys whilst also not focusing too much on spiritual bypassing as a means to negate every spiritual experience of ourselves and others.
When we are able to work through our emotions and feelings in such a way that acknowledges their presence, allows them to be and helps us understand why we react and respond as we do, we are able to move forward without employing bandaid strategies. Allowing ourselves to express who we are, loving ourselves as we are, leads to:
Genuinely healed wounds
A Greater connection within to that deeper universal place within,
A more wholesome and loving experience with ourselves and others
Spiritual and emotional growth
A happier life
When we are able to express how we feel in a sincere and genuine way, we are acknowledging our true nature and self. For if we are willing to be authentic and honest with ourselves, we are likely to be authentic and honest with others. We then begin to create a life in which honors the personal, interpersonal, and transpersonal and live with self-awareness and a deeper, more spiritually sound life. A life of integrity and compassion.
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
by Team Sim | Dec 30, 2020 | Spiritual Bypassing
The goal of spirituality is for us all to find inner meaning and connection with our deeper self. The benefits of living from our authentic selves, expressing our emotions, is when we do so, others are not afraid to do the same. It becomes a rippling effect, with more and more people realising, it’s ok to have moments of frustration, anger, sadness and to experience pain. This is part of being human and when we acknowledge these emotions, we begin to love ourselves unconditionally which is the core essence of living a spiritual life.
We can do certain activities to work towards living our most authentic spiritual life.
Self acceptance work. When we understand our shadow is not our enemy and our emotions are not shortcomings, we are able to work with these emotions to move forward
Accept our emotions and work at processing :
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- Express
- Observe
- Accept
- Reflect
Journaling lets us express our emotions in written form
Practicing Self compassion and non judgmental awareness of yourself
Connect to things that are meaningful to you, Meditate, pray or read scripture to ask for guidance
Seek counselling or therapy
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- It’s always good to talk to someone and express the emotions we may not wish to share with others
- Therapists can explore core beliefs which contribute to the way in which we process and express our emotions, using therapies such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
What we can do for others:
Provide a safe space for people to share their emotions genuinely, by showing patience, kindness and understanding
Practice our own self love and acceptance so we are able to accept others pains and sufferings without judgement
Encourage regular counselling or therapy, so people are able to voice emotions and feelings
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Content support Maria Peach
by Team Sim | Dec 29, 2020 | Spiritual Bypassing
Spiritual bypassing leads us to repress feelings and emotions. It is something people do to avoid dealing with pain. This causes stunted growth, keeps us disconnected from being our true authentic self, and is not healthy. The desire to be living in a constant high and elevated state, to causes people to spiritual bypass which may manifests as:
- anger-phobia
- emotional numbing and repression
- delusions of having arrived at a higher level of being
- focusing on the positive only leading to negative resistance of self and others
- Self judging
- Excessive niceness
- Misuse of spiritual and religious truths to avoid pain
This avoidance and denial of our unaddressed wounds, detracts us from the calling of our true self, and a deeper place of compassion for others and self. Emotions serve as a function to meet our needs. Our brains have specific areas, like the limbic region, which interprets information and produces our emotional reactions. When emotions are not processed and not expressed they are repressed. What we resist will persist and remain suppressed, building up and eventually released in a likely unhealthy manner.
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Content support Maria Peach
by Team Sim | Dec 28, 2020 | Spiritual Bypassing
Have you ever felt sometimes it’s easier to portray happiness than how you really feel about something because you fear being judged and seen as unspiritual? Do you stand guarded at expressing your emotions, for fear of being thought of as negative, not living a spiritual life, or failing in your spiritual path? Have you ever bared witness to a friend, family member, colleague, or partner masking their deepest and innermost pains with spiritual ideas and practices? Have you noticed others comparing ‘wholesome’ spiritual journeys with yours, but something doesn’t feel right?
What is spiritual bypassing?
There has been an upsurge over the years, in people wanting to experience a spiritual life and learn what it means to connect with that innate power and Divinity within. We desire feelings of peace and love and happiness. So many of us have lived in pain and suffering, to know love is healing. There is a danger in pursuing superficial happiness rather than working through situations and in the process expressing our deepest emotions and feelings.
John Welwood, a transpersonal psychologist defined spiritual bypassing in the 80s as using, “spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep personal, emotional ‘unfinished business,’ to shore up a shaky sense of self, or to belittle basic needs, feelings, and developmental tasks.” People engage in spiritual bypassing, to portray a sense of enlightenment, while avoiding or minimising deep seated emotional pain.
Over the years, it has been wrongly assumed and perpetuated that ‘negative’ emotions are ‘bad’ and not ‘spiritual.’ This idea has infiltrated modern concepts of spirituality thus, creating practices and a widely held belief that spirituality is a perpetual state of constant bliss. As a result, people repress and hide pain and emotions when they feel down or sad. In the suppression and non-acknowledgment of our many emotions, we miss an important process. Spirituality is healing. The journey with our innate spirit requires us to dig deep within our hearts, minds and souls, acknowledge our wounds and work to heal them. Spiritual bypassing misses the whole aspect of true spirituality which is living from a place of authenticity.
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
