by Team Sim | Aug 20, 2020 | Emotional Agility
The 4 step process to move beyond our emotions and thoughts that hold us in limbo and keep us stagnant is as follows:
Recognise patterns:
When we are going through the experience, the patterns, feelings thoughts and emotions, feel like reruns of the same show.
We are likely to have felt these feelings of fear, guilt or doubt and incompetency before in previous experiences, which is why they pop up again so strongly.
The thoughts are repetitive, we find ourselves thinking the same things again and again, “ I should be doing this, I should have done that,” or in the case of losing a job, “ What did I do wrong? Why didn’t I this or that? My boss never valued me.”
It is important to recognise these patterns of thinking and feeling, that have a hold over us so we are able to become unhooked.
Label thoughts and emotions accurately:
It’s good to label our thoughts to create an objective lens.
When thinking, “ My boss never valued me,” change it to, “ I am having the thought my boss never valued me.”
This helps us to detach and see our thoughts for what they are.
This is the bird’s eye view, stepping aside and not giving our thoughts life.
We are able to see that these thoughts and feelings are moving and do not need to remain permanent.
We are able to collate data of our own thoughts and feelings and work out ways to move through them.
Accept them Rather than fighting our thoughts and emotions It’s good to accept them for what they are in the moment.
Research has shown, the more we try to ignore our emotions, the more they are amplified.
Once we are able to accept what we are thinking and feeling, we are offering ourselves some self-compassion leading to insights and observations.
We are able to observe the kind of energy we create in what we think and feel.
Action on your values:
Once we have been successful in recognising our patterns, labelling them to create distance, accepted them and realised the energy they hold, we have begun to unhook ourselves from rumination and unhealthy thoughts and feelings.
It is powerful to now call on our values, which have shaped who we are and have an essence and stability, rather than transiency like our emotions and thoughts.
Our values will guide us into becoming the expression of who we are and what our Spirit calls us to be.
Reference: Https://hbr.org/2013/11/emotional-agility
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MDE
by Team Sim | Aug 19, 2020 | Emotional Agility
It is exhausting when emotions and thoughts take hold.
It has a snowball effect stopping us in our tracks from living and enjoying our lives.
We become rigid in our thinking and this isn’t healthy.
We move forward by understanding and processing these emotions.
It is important to recognize what’s going on and having a way to navigate through everything we are experiencing.
Dr Susan David and her team have developed a way to move beyond our emotions and thoughts that hold us in limbo and keep us stagnant.
The four step process is as follows:
✅ Recognise patterns
✅ Label thoughts and emotions accurately
✅ Accept Them
✅Action on your values
Research shows that attempting to minimize or ignore thoughts and emotions serves only to amplify them.
Gaining emotional agility will help you to begin the process of noticing when you are being absorbed by your thoughts and emotions. This will help you lead yourself out of old patterns that do not serve you.
Making you better for yourself, those you love and provide better care for your patients.
You will create a more fulfilling life.
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
by Team Sim | Aug 18, 2020 | Emotional Agility
When something happens in life that is testing, do you struggle to manage your thoughts and emotions?
Does it all seem overwhelming?
Do you lay awake at night and ruminate over and over again, different scenarios, what ifs, whys and how will this pan out?
Do you question yourself and what you are doing, doubting your abilities to make people happy, meet people’s needs whilst trying to maintain your own sanity and strength?
Do you choose to ignore, deny or embrace your emotions?
Certain life experiences can cause us to react and respond in certain ways.
These experiences trigger our emotions and hence our interactions with the world around us.
Our responses can have either a negative or positive impact on the direction and course of our lives.
Take for example if someone has lost their job. They may be experiencing so many doubts, fears and worries about how to move forward.
There are questions leading to how to provide for the family, how to pay the immediate bills, no certainty of job security within the next 3 months, unnerving because mortgage payments are due.
The thoughts don’t stop there.
Accompanying them are negative thoughts of capabilities, “ If I was a good provider, this wouldn’t have happened,” or , “ It’s my fault we are in this mess.”
And it goes on. A constant barrage of negative thoughts, that deepen negative feelings and emotions about ourselves.
Understanding these thoughts and feelings and working through them, rather than ignoring, resisting, masking or feeding them repetitively, is crucial to living a healthy, reduced stressed life and important to sustain a well balanced emotional, mental, physical and spiritual well-being.
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
by Team Sim | Aug 17, 2020 | Emotional Agility
What is emotional agility ?
Dr Susan David a psychologist and researcher of emotions and happiness described emotional agility as the following:
“Emotional agility is a process that enables us to navigate life’s twists and turns with self-acceptance, clear-sightedness, and an open mind. The process isn’t about ignoring difficult emotions and thoughts. It’s about holding those emotions and thoughts loosely, facing them courageously and compassionately, and then moving past them to ignite change in your life.“
Emotional agility is the ability to be malleable in a life circumstance, take a step aside or form a bird’s eye view of what we are experiencing, thinking and feeling, allowing us the space to work through it all, without being consumed.
It is a process that gives us the insights to move forward in a healthy way, that enhances our growth and well-being
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
