What can we do to build a sense of belonging?
Sep 30, 2020
Sometimes we may find it hard to connect and form social relationships within these settings.
Our own inner work can help us relate to others, as we are more likely to bond with others if we also simultaneously work on our own hearts.
The following can help with establishing nurturing fulfilling relationships with others, that cultivate a sense of belonging.
Learning to accept yourself for who you are, this will grow a sense of accepting others for who they are. We do not have to be perfect, yet begin to understand we are created perfectly imperfect.
Being less judgemental of ourselves will lead us to being less judgemental of others.
Be open minded others and self.
Look for similarities in others, rather than our differences. But also listen carefully to their story and what makes them different with an open mind.
Having compassion for others, or ourselves… brings a sense of belonging.
Seeing others with a compassionate heart, you are accepting them and therefore
also helping them build their own belonging with you and themselves.
Be brave. Reach out and make connections with one or two people that you feel comfortable with. Whilst this may not be a large group, starting with one or two people to form relationships with, can deepen our sense of connection and for us to then feel more comfortable in larger groups.
Join a group. Once we have gained confidence in a couple of relationships, we can then branch out to a larger network.
We may feel like joining a hobby or cultural group.
We may take on and study a new course, which in the process of learning we will develop connections with those in our group and have a sense of belonging.
It's good to be mindful not all connections will lead to a sense of belonging, so we will learn to discern along the way.
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD