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Finding meaning in grief

grief healing meaning sadness Feb 22, 2021

Have you experienced loss that sometimes you don't have the words to express?

Has disconnection caused heartache and pain that is unbearable?

Do you try and find meaning and sense in grief? 

Grief can arise in many different situations in our lives. We can lose loved ones, relationships, our sense of meaning, purpose and identity, or the job we loved. We can experience grief as feeling like we don't belong in the world. Communities can grieve the loss of land and ocean spaces

We can experience grief seeing others in pain and suffering. Grief is a human emotion and experience, that is unsettling to the heart, mind and soul. Finding meaning in grief is crucial to healing. 

The stages of grief

There is no set time frame or limit to how long grief persists. It varies culturally and also historically. In some cultures the ceremonies carried out for passing of a loved one is a process which takes sometimes days or weeks and in others, it may be a few days. All for very valid...

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Failure

failure Feb 03, 2021

Have there been times in your life when you have felt like you have failed as a parent, friend, child, student, worker? Do the feelings of failure overwhelm you and knock your confidence to the point where you lose motivation? Has failure ever driven you to do better? Are their moments when you have self reflected on seeming failures and realized these moments were moments of growth? 

We have all experienced the feelings of failure. Failure to complete a project, failure to make a sports team, failure to 'raise our children right,' failure to pass exams, Failure to be that good friend or wife etc..

However, these moments in our lives require perspective within the context of a life's journey and also reflection on who has set and determined the criteria for what constitutes 'success.' For every seemingly failure we are reminded of, there are stories in our lives that have brought us and others joy. The infamous story of Michael Jordan, basketball player, who never made the...

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When life feels meaningless

meaning Jan 19, 2021

 “Life is meaningless”

Maybe this is something you have said to yourself or there is someone close to you or who you have taken care of who  have utter these words. 

There are many ways to approach this.

:bulb:The thing that pops up in my head is, :woman-shrugging::skin-tone-4:what meaning is being referred  to? :question:How can I clarify what exactly “meaning” may mean.  

When I do this I find it sets up the foundation for clearer communication and less judgement.  Meaningless is like we lost our “so what?” and don’t know where to look to gain that value back.

As humans we are unlikely to be truly content with any purpose of our existence. It has to be something that is aligned with your meaning, your deeper held values. Something that you believe in.

So believing in something is an innate core part of us that has powerful motivation to bring about a more fulfilling life. Life becomes more fun, relationships are improved, and now when...

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Accepting Imperfections

Uncategorized Jan 15, 2021

When we accept ourselves unconditionally we are loving ourselves completely. To love all facets of who we are, is to accept our  whole being,  our spirit begins to thrive and we can have the realisation we are made perfectly imperfect. This sets the path, for being able to also show more compassion and  love to others and their imperfections.  Creating more fulfilling relationships that we can treasure and have more respect and admiration for our own work. Our imperfections are part of our mental and spiritual growth. 

"Nurture, nourish and cherish that person whom you will have to live with for the rest of your life,  yourself."

Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD

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Working with our imperfections

imperfection Jan 14, 2021

Self acceptance is vital to loving ourselves in completeness. Unconditional self acceptance is understanding and acknowledging we all make mistakes, but most importantly, not letting our mistakes define us. 

Here are some tips on how to work with our imperfections:

Write down a list of what bothers you about yourself. See if somewhere in your life this trait has served a good purpose or created a positive outcome for you or others that is not harmful.

Explore 2 or 3 traits and try and understand their origins. When did you first notice this trait became an issue? Can you find a source for this trait. Did you have a heartbreaking relationship that made you become less trustful of others? Did you feel unworthy as a child? We then realise many of our traits were built over a lifetime and are possible to shed. 

Work on forgiving yourself for seemingly not so good behaviours that have been infringing on others and your own life. Take some time to be self compassionate. The same...

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Understanding imperfections

imperfection Jan 13, 2021

No personality is perfect, but we have perfectly imperfect personalities. We need to be mindful that our human spirit is perfect and whole and we have been given a human body in which to live and express ourselves. Some of our greatest strengths are also our greatest weaknesses. 

For example, a person may be friendly and welcoming. This is a beautiful trait and quality to have. In a world of personality conflicts, this can also be a weakness, because  that same person may be afraid to speak up, or it can result in being nice even when we don’t want to be, which can compromise our authenticity.

A person may be very well organised that is conducive and a necessity to keeping organisations, households and work places functional. However if not balanced with flexibility it can be too rigid and not adaptable to unexpected situations or events. 

We may have trust issues and find it difficult to get close to people, yet at the same time, this serves to cultivate...

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Why are we afraid of our imperfections?

imperfection Jan 12, 2021

There are many reasons imperfections scare us:

* we fear our imperfections will push people away

* we don't know how to change them, or improve them

* we worry people will take advantage of our weaknesses

* our beliefs about ourselves are too ingrained to shift our way of thinking

Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD

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What is imperfection?

imperfection Jan 11, 2021

Have there been times in your life when you are afraid to do something because you worry about doing it perfectly?

  • Do you keep people away for fear of them knowing your imperfections?
  • Do you wish they would go away?
  • Do you sometimes struggle to know how to deal with imperfections?

We all have imperfections as humans and struggle to manage these. It can create resistance to leading fulfilling lives. Our constant fretting about what we perceive to be wrong with us, can be debilitating and stunt our growth, with too much focus on our imperfections only.

What we can lose sight of, is that some of our deepest insecurities and strengths are found in our imperfections simultaneously. Once we understand this, we begin to accept ourselves completely and reach the realisation, it is  our acceptance of ourselves that allows us to move forward and grow spiritually. 

Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD

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How to avoid letting greed consume you?

greed Jan 06, 2021

Thankfully there are ways to avoid greed taking over. 

→ have a values driven life first and foremost

→ surround yourself with people generous people - They are more likely to share the same values, and inspire you to be the same

→ be generous. create wealth with others in mind also.

→ support a local group or cause that you know could do with some financial assistance and resource. Put extra money to good use, without having a saviour mentality. 

→ find ways to have a sustainable income that does not lead to the exploitation of workers

→ be thankful for what one already has, as there are plenty of people in the world who are struggling. 

→ choose to work within cooperative groups that generate wealth, with the thought that wealth would be shared with others and the communities surrounding. 

Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD

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Pitfalls of greed

greed Jan 05, 2021

What can happen when greed takes over?

We only have to take a look around the world, nearby and afar, to see what happens when a person or group of people  become greedy. 

🌀 people want more as they obtain more 

🌀 the desire for more can take over personal values

🌀 greed damages relationship priorities, people  competing against each other for 'more' than another

🌀 people lose sight of who they are

🌀 people are exploited, for profits

🌀 people  are reluctant to help others financially because of fear of 'losing' money

🌀 money becomes an indicator of power

🌀 greed has led to the destruction of the planet, land and oceans, for resources. 

🌀 people engage in certain behaviours to meet short term goals, because of the rewards, whether it's ethical or not. 

Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD

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