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Self acceptance and well-being

self acceptance Jul 16, 2020
 
Self acceptance leads to better emotional,
physical and spiritual well being.
 
Srini Pillay, an Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, has shared when we feel negatively about ourselves, the regions in our brain regulating emotions, have been identified as having less grey matter. This has impact on our emotional regulation.
Self -acceptance, thinking positively about ourselves, supports better emotional regulation. Our physical health can also suffer as it is recognised those with less self-acceptance are more likely to be anxious, thereby increasing awareness in feeling the physical symptoms of chronic illnesses.
 
When we accept ourselves benefits are:
🌺 We feel more at peace.
🌺We feel happier.
🌺This improves our spiritual wellness as we are connected to Spirit.
🌺 We no longer search outside of ourselves for acceptance and the doors are open to allow more love into our lives.
🌺The more we accept ourselves, the more we begin to...
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How can we accept ourselves more?

self acceptance Jul 14, 2020
 
Here are 5 ways to learn self-acceptance
1️⃣ Positive affirmations
2️⃣ Mirror work
3️⃣ Reading and listening to affirming material
4️⃣ Standing guard with our thoughts about ourselves and replacing negative thoughts
5️⃣ Express gratitude
 
The process of self acceptance begins with an acknowledgement of ourselves as we are.
We take the step to say, “I am ok as I am,” and set the intention to change our mindset of our own self-perceptions.
We may start with affirmations daily and reaffirm ourselves through repetition. It is important to feed our minds nourishing self-accepting thoughts, whether it be through reading books, social media posts, youtube videos or podcasts. (I do a whole module on mind imprinting technique and maximizing your minds potential, in my soon to be released online meditation course).
 
Mirror work can be an important tool for self acceptance and love as looking at ourselves creates an awareness of what we think and feel about...
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What stands in the way of complete self acceptance?

self acceptance Jul 14, 2020
 
Accepting oneself takes time.
 
Along the way, there are many challenges and barriers:
1️⃣ Self doubt eludes us.
2️⃣ We struggle to let go of our mistakes and the hurts from others.
3️⃣ We don't feel we are worthy because we have heard non-validating and non-affirming messages, continuously throughout our lives.
These words and actions have imprinted in our subconscious minds our negative perceptions of who we are.
4️⃣ We judge ourselves. We wonder, who am I to be loved?
Our self belief has been broken and it becomes difficult to accept we are worthy.
 
Other difficulties towards self-acceptance include:
🌀Struggling to find the time to appreciate ourselves in our hectic lives
🌀Learning to validate ourselves without others (although it is important to surround ourselves with supportive people).
 
First peel back your layers and let the truth of who you are begin to reveal the truth of your being.
 
Self acceptance can be a beautiful...
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What is self-acceptance?

self acceptance Jul 13, 2020
 
Have you ever felt you wish you could accept yourself more? That you weren't in constant battle with your heart and mind, replaying over and over again your flaws and weaknesses.
 
Right now, at this very moment, are you able to say you accept yourself in totality?
 
🤗 Self-acceptance is the ability to love who we are at this very moment, all aspects, weaknesses, flaws, strengths and beauties.
🤗 Self -acceptance is our own ability to validate and give ourselves credibility. We no longer seek the approval and acceptance of others because we realise we are enough and more.
 
Once we have accepted who we are, we are kind, compassionate and gentle with ourselves.
It is as if a weight has been lifted off our shoulders and we breathe a sigh of relief. We finally know we are okay, because for so long, we have not appreciated who we are.
We accept that we made with imperfections and that the universal force that connects us all accepts us as we are.
 
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Resources on Authenticity

authenticity Jul 10, 2020
Some Resources for your health partners (patients) or yourself on Authenticity.
Websites with courses or exercises:
 
Books in no particular order:
1️⃣ The Gifts of Imperfection Brene Brown
2️⃣The Authenticity Principle Ritu Bhasin
3️⃣How to see yourself as you really are - The Dalai Lama
 
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
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Authenticity leads to Higher Self-esteem and life satisfaction

authenticity Jul 10, 2020
 
There are researchers who believe authenticity, when well developed, leads to higher self esteem and life satisfaction. Goldman and Kernis (2002) developed an authenticity inventory and defined being authentic as, when a person has developed these 4 qualities:
1️⃣ An awareness of one's motives, feelings desires, strengths weaknesses, traits and emotions.
2️⃣ The ability to be objective in our positive and negative attributes and qualities
3️⃣ When we act in accordance with our values and not acting to please others for reward. Being true to ourselves
4️⃣ When we value openness and truthfulness in close relationships and work actively in this process.
 
We can work towards being authentic in our daily living, by setting a clear vision of who we would like to be.
Visualising ourselves in our full expression and setting realistic and attainable goals to achieve this. (This is what I do as an integrative health coach)
For example, we may wish to meet new people who like...
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The Courage To Be You

authenticity Jul 09, 2020
7 ways to help you be more authentic:
🌺Be intentional about Sharing feelings with those we love respectfully and kindly as much as you can
🌺 Work on your own Self acceptance
🌺 Work on your own Self love and Self Worth
🌺Intentionally give yourself permission to express yourself
🌺Be in relationships with those who accept you as you are and are authentic themselves
🌺Get intentional about reflecting on what emotions come up for you when you feel like “shrinking” when challenging situations arise
🌺Embrace that you are not perfect and that is ok. You can Healthy strive - how can I improve? vs. Unhealthy strive What will they think?
 
The beauty about being yourself, is you are unique. No one was made exactly like you.
Even monozygotic identical twins have different personalities. No one has your physical appearance, your mind, your soul, your insights, your perceptions of the world.
People may share common attributes, common ideals, but there is only ONE...
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What are the sacrifices of not being authentic?

authenticity Jul 08, 2020
 
Here are 5 Things we may sacrifice when we are not living Authentically:
1) A Meaningful life
2) A Purposeful Life
4) A Self-Compassionate Life
4) A life full of Lasting Relationships
5) A life of Self Growth & Discovery
 
We feel resistance when we are not ourselves.
Our spirit knows it.
We feel lost and something is amiss in our lives.
We feel stunted in growth.
We feel like we have offered the world a tailored version of who we are and continue to constantly modify ourselves for approval.
In this process, the relationships we form with others may not be long lasting if only a version of ourselves that is accepted is worthy of acknowledgement.
We may miss finding our unique attributes, skills and talents because we are suppressing who we really are.
We don't feel good even though others may like us.
 
As we start to break free and feel more authentic, we may notice that the friendships and relationships, who only liked a certain version of...
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Why do people struggle to be themselves?

Uncategorized Jul 07, 2020
 
Have you ever felt like you struggle to fit in? Or that no one understands you?
 
You want to be loved, but don't want to have to struggle in conflict with doing things that will make you more acceptable to others while losing yourself in the process.
Being ourselves in a world with so many pressures, so many expectations and various ‘norms,’ can be daunting.
The risk of being rejected and not accepted feels too much and it can seem easier to go with the flow, blend in with the crowd, agree when you don’t and sacrifice your authentic self, for approval.
 
Having the courage to be yourself is a challenge many face.
As children we learn ways of behaving that are deemed as worthy of approval from those around us. If our behaviour is not acceptable we take it as a reflection of who we are not as a socially constructed norm.
This follows us through life into adolescence, where we have found ‘place’ amongst peers who accept often...
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