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When Spirituality Disconnects Us

spiritual bypassing Dec 28, 2020

Have you ever felt sometimes it’s easier to portray happiness than how you really feel about something, because you fear being judged and seen as unspiritual? Do you stand guarded at expressing your emotions, for fear of being thought of as negative, not living a spiritual life or failing in your spiritual path? Have you ever bared witness to a friend, family member, colleague, or partner masking their deepest and innermost pains with spiritual ideas and practices? Have you noticed others comparing ‘wholesome’ spiritual journeys with yours, but something doesn't feel right?

What is spiritual bypassing?

There has been an upsurge over the years, in people wanting to experience a spiritual life and learn what it means to connect with that innate power and Divinity within. We desire feelings of peace and love and happiness. So many of us have lived in pain and suffering, to know love is healing. There is a danger in pursuing superficial happiness rather than working...

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Being vulnerable with others

vulnerability Dec 24, 2020

To be vulnerable with others, also requires work on ourselves, to build strength, self belief, faith in who we are. This provides a base from which we can work off, to then begin to let others into our life, who want us also to experience love. 

A beautiful quote by Dr Scott Peck encapsulates the power of reciprocal relationship, intimacy and love.

 " Love is the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one's own or another's spiritual growth."  

We develop connection through intimacy and intimacy and connection through vulnerability. 

 

Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Content support Maria Peach

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How do we become vulnerable?

vulnerability Dec 23, 2020

How do we become vulnerable? 

To be vulnerable involves risk. It also involves discernment as to who to be vulnerable with making it a balancing act. Choosing to be vulnerable doesn't mean opening up and getting close to everyone we meet.

It means taking some risk to get to know others if we don't already know them, and giving it time. When we feel safe enough to open up, because we sense a person genuinely cares about us, we are able to gradually share parts of ourselves. 

Those who have experienced painful, traumatic or difficult relationships have an almost double edged sword to vulnerability. On one hand they are very good at sensing sincerity in others because of so many bad experiences, fine tuning them to picking up on patterns of behaviours they have witnessed, seen or felt before. On the other hand this is the exact same reason, people keep people at bay, because of the knowing, pain may ensue if they begin getting close to a particular person.

People who have...

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The benefits of vulnerability

vulnerability Dec 22, 2020

Our spirit has spiritual needs, and to fulfill them we need to form bonds and relationships with others, to meet these needs. It is through being vulnerable intimacy and trust is built and real unconditional love is experienced. 

Through vulnerability we: 

• develop  trust more

• experience a more deeper love

• heal

• experience intimacy and connection

Research has shown that those who have more social ties and feel connected live longer, happier and healthier lives.

There has been documented evidence suggesting:

• Those with good relationships and social connection, have  2x less risk of death. 

• People with coronary artery disease who are socially isolated have a 2.4 times increased risk of dying from cardiac disease than those who are socially connected. 

 

Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD
Content support Maria Peach

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Vulnerability

vulnerability Dec 21, 2020

Have you had times in your life, where you have been afraid to be vulnerable? Do you crave intimacy, yet because of life experiences are cautious and untrusting of others? Have you been burned one too many times, that the idea of being vulnerable appears impossible? 

 

Vulnerability is something many fear. It's common to be afraid of getting close to people. People are afraid for so many reasons, including worrying others will take advantage of their weaknesses, and continue to dig in wounds. It is understandable after painful experiences, trauma and difficult relationships to avoid being vulnerable, however it isn't healthy to keep people at a distance for a lifetime. 

 

There are times in our lives when we are naturally vulnerable without knowing. Mothers having babies place themselves and their new born in complete trust of those who are supporting with the delivery of their children. People who go to health professionals for advice and open up become...

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Uncertainty

uncertainty Dec 18, 2020

Uncertainty is frightening, especially when our livelihoods are dependant on it and our families. With guidance and support we need not deal with the present on our own.

We cannot control everything in our lives, however we can find ways to move through these uncertain times. Being around people who understand us is crucial. Together we can pave a way forward. 

 

Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD

Content support Maria Peach

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The benefits of uncertainty

uncertainty Dec 17, 2020
Uncertainty usually carries feelings of angst, however it can be a time of great healing and growth when we understand it fully. 
 
1. Times of uncertainty are a transition period, a clearing out of the old, to make way for the new. These times are usually moments when we let go of what is unhealthy for our mind, body and spirit, to help us move forward.
 
2. They can be opportunistic times. Many people have used times of uncertainty to do something they have always wanted to do, but have been so caught up with life, they haven't been able to find the time or energy to do it. It has led some people to follow their creative desires and dreams. 
 
3. Uncertainty can bring clarity about who we are. When we are deeply involved with a project, a work space or particular relationships, we can lose sight of who we are. Times of uncertainty help us to refocus, and remember, our values and qualities of importance, that have guided us through trial and tribulation....
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How do we navigate through uncertainty

uncertainty Dec 16, 2020
Being around people who reassure us, when we don't have the strength 
  • It's important to be around people who do not add to our uncertainty about life. Pick some trusted friends, colleagues or family, who you can confide in. They may also be able to share different perspectives and ideas to help you gain clarity and can be a source of strength. If there is noone at present to be there, there are various local support teams  available. Some people  regain strength from being re-energized by being alone rather than with people. Some people prefer not to be alone and desire company that is uplifting. During uncertain times, we must seek out people who understand what we are going through and can be with us. 
Know who you are. 
  • This if anytime, is the time most needed for us to know who we are. And sometimes it feels like the hardest thing to do. To dig deep into our good qualities and remind ourselves of what we have done and can do that contributes to the...
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Feelings we may have experienced when uncertain

uncertainty Dec 15, 2020
Feelings of uncertainty can lead to further emotional distress and it is important to recognise these are all very valid emotions and feelings. Some of these may include:
 
  anxiety
  fear
  shame
  impatience
  worry
  stressed out
  overwhelmed 
  severe panic attacks 
  low mood
  anxiety
 
The desire to know or predict what lies ahead can actually cause more stress and uncertainty. It is therefore important to develop ways to move through these uncertain times and any other uncertainties we may experience in our lives. 
 
Honouring and Serving,
Simran K. Rattan MD

Content support Maria Peach
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What is Uncertainty?

uncertainty Dec 14, 2020
Have you ever had moments in your life when you  are uncertain about what is going on? Your plans for life have taken a different turn or you are not sure whether a job, partner or place is right for you? Does the stress of not knowing how to provide for loved ones, overwhelm you? Do you often become anxious because not knowing what the future holds can seem daunting? 
 
These are testing times, in our current global environment. It has created alot of uncertainty with many people, about work, living circumstances, relationships and their futures and the futures of the people they love. 
 
We do not have a crystal ball, to determine what lies ahead, what the outcomes will be if we make a particular decision, whether or not we will have secure employment, or whether or not love will last if we begin a relationship with someone we care about.
 
We can however, try as best as possible to reduce, the feelings that overwhelm us, when we feel uncertain about...
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